I was delighted to learn that Lady Governa is an enthusiastic reader of this Blog. She is a wonderfully creative person with the style of a stern, vintage governess. She is also a true expert in the kind of traditional, old-fashioned disciplinary methods about which all of us love to read. I reproduce here a brief paragraph from her fascinating website.
The Lady Governa Ethos
"The man is belittled
& kept in his place for his own good & her own pleasure...
He is a ward, a pupil, an
infant, a sissy, a doll, a pet, a toy, a plaything ... for a moment or a
lifetime, as she so wishes. He is a vulnerable yet potent creation of the woman
who controls and nurtures him, as is her prerogative. The adult male is enticed
and regressed by the adult female and forced into a helpless and vulnerable
state in her delicate hands. The man is physically, mentally, emotionally and
sexually dominated and manipulated by the woman. He is immobilised and
incapacitated, disciplined and humiliated by her. He is made to submit to her
will, her whim and her desire. The man is stripped of his adult male status and
he is laid bare by her natural seductive power and control.
The woman utilises her
womanly wiles and charms to emasculate and disempower the man. His freedom of
choice and movement is taken from him and he must do as the woman demands for
her pleasure or suffer her displeasure. He is kept as a plaything in restraint
and containment by his female owner. He loses control of the most basic of
functions of movement, feeding, toileting and sex. He is disciplined and
punished, mocked and chastised, teased and cooed over, dressed in frills and
fancies, displayed as a novelty, treated as a human toy for her entertainment.
He is ashamed yet aroused at this humiliation and cruelty that he cannot stop.
His inherent weakness is his sexual desire for seduction by the female and this
is used against him by the provocative and powerful woman. His erect cock is
the explicit manifestation of the desire that he cannot hide and she controls its
pleasure and pain, release and restraint, as she sees fit. He is a dependant
for his physical and sexual release and he must beg for her attention and her
mercy. The man is belittled in this most fundamental form of male submission
and female domination. Her feminine beauty is the natural weapon of the woman
and her high heels, black stockings, red lips & red nails adorn this.
He loves and hates it. He
craves and fights it."
Respectfully i believe Her Ladyship to be one of the foremost of dominant Females and Her understanding of the elemental weakness and vulnerability that renders the male so susceptible to Female control, authority and servitude is second to none.
And She is so right; we both crave it and hate it - it is our lot in life, to fall under the thrall of Women and to be ruled, trained and used for their purposes and pleasures.
Posted by: james forde | August 09, 2010 at 09:17 PM
A lot of what Lady Governa offers isn't really my 'thing' - but having heard samples of that wonderful voice, I could spend any amount of time just having her tell me off :). Her posh, stern tone melts my spine!
Posted by: Underling | January 30, 2010 at 10:17 PM
Am I the only guy who enjoys being submissive, but still has a problem being referred to as a "sissy" or other demeaning words?
Also, the descriptions of male and female seem to be all about how the male is basically nothing and the female....well, it just doesn't explain much about her.
How about....."She" is the dominating power, ever present in his heart, mind, and soul. "She" manipulates him with her charm and wit and molds him to her will. "She" possesses all the finer qualities of a true "woman", which includes compassion and tenderness, but also strength and scorn. He "wants" to please her because of all these things.
Seriously....I have enjoyed a lot of reading here, but I'm really beginning to think this is just another place for liberal women to fantasize about abusing the big, bad man.
There is no true power exchange in S&M. The Sadist feels empowered by inflicting him/herself upon the submissive and the masochist feels empowered by offering him/herself to their dominant. Perhaps I'm just being hyper-sensitive, but I see no value in the belittlement of either sex; male or female.
Sorry. Just saying.
Posted by: jswannabme | January 23, 2010 at 05:15 AM
Dear CJ:
THANK YOU! for the wonderful introduction and link to Lady Govema web site. The site is fascinating and has given me some good ideas for use on my little boy; aj. Your site as always is PARAMOUNT on this subject. You have out done yourself again.
Keep it up.
Rachel W
Posted by: Rachel W | January 18, 2010 at 01:42 AM